died I threw a hugh Christmas party for family and friends and our very young children at the time. He asked for a cup of coffee and I made him a cup forgetting that I had borrowed salt that day in a similar cup as the sugar. After taking a hugh gulp he spit it all over the floor, his exact words being, "What's the matter with you? Arn't I going fast enough for ya?" That was his sense of humor all through our relationship. I started to laugh, then started crying, then laughing and crying at the same time. Everyone else in the room followed suit. I threw that same cup in the bucket. Two weeks after he died his favorite song came on the radio while I made coffee and I mixed it from the same sugar bowl I had used all week but guess what...I was salt. I laughed til I cried. He didn't believe in life after death and I had vehemently tried to persuade him. I looked up at my ceiling and said,"I told you so".