"If our wishes are not fulfilled and we begin to feel unhappy we should immediately remember that the fault lies not with the other person or the situation but with our own self-cherishing mind, which instinctively feels 'My wishes are of paramount importance'. Remaining continually mindful of the dangers of our self-cherishing, will strengthen our resolve to abandon it, and, instead of feeling sorry for ourself when we have problems, we can use our own suffering to remind us of the suffering of countless mother beings and develop love and compassion for them."